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Law Enforcement Family Legacy Project

Community for Law Enforcement Spouses
Who Are We

My Story, as the child in a LE Family

I am the daughter of a retired Philadelphia Police Lieutenant and I first registered the unwarranted hate and resentment that people can have towards police officers in 2020, as I watched the riots play out on tv and social media. 

 

It was during those heart wrenching days that I decided that I, as a civilian, would make a stand and do what I could to support our law enforcement. My next reality check came shortly thereafter when I learned that many of our officers don’t know how to connect at home. They have to transition from a heightened state, potentially life threatening situations, and compounded traumatic events to putting their little ones to bed or sharing a moment with their partner. Of course they don’t know how to do that. It isn’t normal for their human minds and bodies. 

 

My dad somehow mastered this and I don’t want to know what my life would look like if he hadn’t. My dad is my hero, my favorite person in the world and he always has been. With the support of my mom, who is my best friend, they curated a safe home of love and peace - something I want for every law enforcement family across America.

A SPACE FOR LAW ENFORCEMENT SPOUSES AND FAMILIES

Have you ever heard the term MASTERMIND? A master mind is a small group of like-minded people who come together to share stories to build support, encouragement, and community. They are pretty common in the business and entrepreneurial world but everyone can benefit from them. 
 
As adults, it can be difficult to find “your people ''. As someone who is married to a law enforcement officer, you have your own unique hurdles to overcome and situations to navigate. I know you want more for your family and you want support as your figure it all out.
 
I am creating a place for you to be seen and feel heard; to share your insights, get resources, and community. This will be a tight knit group of law enforcement families who are seeking more community and support from others who understand.
 
Community is huge. As humans, we need community. However, community isn’t everything and will not solve all of our problems. In addition to the community and support, we will have experts in the field host workshops throughout the program. Some of these presentations will include: law enforcement family finances, marriage support, how to handle alcohol or drug use, and more.

LAW ENFORCEMENT FAMILIES EXPERIENCE THINGS THAT NO OTHER FAMILY EVER WILL

Communication at home can be tricky to navigate. You may or may not be comfortable hearing about work stories and your spouse might need to get things off their chest at the end of the day. Beyond that, kids are always curious. They want to know what their parents did all day, they want to be part of the conversation.

---> We will talk about deciding how much of what you do at work to talk about at home or what to leave behind, not wanting to over share with your kids but also wanting to be open and honest about what you are experiencing on a regular basis
---> And how to communicate and set boundaries with your spouse on the stories they share in a way that will benefit you both.
 
Sometimes law enforcement officers don't know how to be at home because they don't know how to unwind and come down from that heightened state. They're more comfortable at work because going home forces them to disconnect and face what they saw or did - enter excessive overtime.

---> We will address building a safe and inviting home for everyone. A place where you kids are free to play and be themselves, a calming place that your law enforcement spouse wants to come home to after a long stressful day of seeing the worst of the worst, and a haven for yourself.
 
Law enforcement kids can struggle in silence. Your kids might be bullied or left out because of what their parents do for a living and how the media has spun things. At home, they might feel neglected or not seen by one or both of their parents because of the weight and time commitment to the job. They don’t usually have the vocabulary or knowledge to know that they need to speak up about their experiences and feelings. Or they may be scared; so, instead they struggle quietly. Or lash out. And one day you find yourself with a young person or young adult who wants nothing to do with you, your spouse, or home.

​---> Let's figure out how to talk to your kids. How to start the conversation and open the dialogue so that they can express what they are experiencing. Your kids shouldn't live in fear and they definitely shouldn't experience any fear in private. 

BRIDGING THE GAP AT HOME 

It breaks my heart to know that there are kids out there with real life heroes for parents but they can’t see it or they don’t personally feel it because when that parent comes home, the cape comes off and they disconnect from the people who love them the most - their children.
 

  • And as the other parent, you are stuck in the middle. 

  • You see the hurt in your kids eyes. 

  • You feel their disappointment when their hero doesn’t want to play with them or hang out with them after a shift.

  • You also understand, as an adult, the pressures and the burdens your spouse faces. You have to walk a fine line, holding the family together and that is a burden of its own. One that you don’t have to walk alone. 

  • It is up to us, the adult generation, to work to close the gaps to ensure the next generation is set up for success.

  • Your kids are growing into young people and adults who have the power to change the world - for better or worse. The experiences they have at home will hugely impact the path they take. These same experiences will make up what could be the best years of your life and marriage. 

PROGRAM DETAILS â€‹

  • Weekly Group Calls for Open Conversation

  • Monthly expert guest speakers

  • Supportive resources

  • What’s App Thread for on going communication & communit

  • 20% off our next event

  • Exclusive Beyond the Uniform Merch

TESTIMONIALS 
 
“I have related to you and opened up to you more in the last 20 minutes than I have with some of my own family and that says something”
 
“Your messaging is so inspiring in a world that is deeply disconnected from themselves and others. Thank you for working so diligently to change this. If your daddy can do it, so can others!”
 
“I love your content. I am a LEOW and find comfort in what you share. I love your perspective”
 
“I always hear about the ‘absent parent’ thing in law enforcement and I never want my kids to experience that. There are so many families that feel the strain and I appreciate what you are doing.”

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